Saturday, November 15, 2008

Love is Giving - Unconditionally

Have you observed in your love for your mother, father, brother, friend, lover or best friend that un-questioned and un-ending flow of giving? There, lies the best form of true love. Here, there is no confusion or conflict and love becomes the most pleasurable experience. It gives meaning to life. It makes us feel complete. It makes us happy.

Love gives meaning to life. It makes us feel complete. It makes us happy.



But what makes this love difficult to maintain and sustain?!! Observe again! Why? As these relationships develop, there is a build up expectations around these relationships. In a friend and/or lover we expect loyalty and a return of the love given, when you need it. Parents expect respect back for the love they have given and we expect them to understand us and stand by us for our interests and desires. We get absorbed to the love to the extent where detachment or inexistence of this love would leave us meaningless and empty.

As relationships develop, there is a build up expectations around these relationships.



We all wish to be loved and we fall in love with others. Why are we so full of ourselves not being able to show the other cheek while being hit? Why can we not give without expecting in return? Why can we not trust in the decisions of the ones we love? We can we not let go? We attach our happiness so much unto loved ones that we forget logic and rationality. With this many times, we end up hurting the ones we love.

Let us all just try to let go and trust in God - The Ultimate Giver.



Give love without bounds and let it shall naturally rebound to you, while not trying to capture it or get lost in it - blinded. And thus, have faith in this inherent nature of any form of love - the attitude of unconditional giving.

4 comments:

In Serch of ...... said...

i realized it after kannan told me that
"love is giving" and i really learnt a gr8 lesson after that..
you have written wonderful very staright but i expected the article to be more in detail,,
but it was in VERY simple language which u rARElly do, WHICH MAKES IT NICE ..
I WUD CALL IT A GR8 ATTEMPT ,,
KUDOS TO U .

richa said...

its just ok ....

diksha said...

you know what, even when ur trying to love unconditionally, its not always possible for the other person to understand

i mean in a way when u expect the other person to understand u begin to apply conditions

i think its absolutely impossible for a human being to create unconditional love

even our love for GOD may be driven by a expectation.

i have personally tried to give unconditionally,, at some point it begins to hurt. i guess my effort itself was driven by an expectation of recieving praise in return.

so lets say
in theory love is giving- unconditionally
in practice, love is a give and take, love is something you have to simply not feel alone!! even when its the love for GOD!

selva ganapathy said...

I agree with Richa.. its a just o.k article.....