Life, Musings, Misadventures, Epiphanies by Arun Raj

Recently, a friend of mine wished to be critical about a team that he was part of at work. The team being made out of a need basis, had little to gel together for. He being the odd one out was being eyed on for removal from the team. He feels discriminated against and blogs his disgust. I reasoned like this ... The central nature of any form of existence - a car, a mountain, a human, an animal, etc, is to compete for survival. They are all made of electrons & photons. When there is instability and emptiness, there is a need for fulfillment. In this competition procreation becomes a tool, a very need based tool, to breed and further your kind. The kind may be a caste, tribe, a pack of lions, a herd of sheep, a clout of locusts, etc. We being relatively the most advanced beings in nature are only different in one way - We are capable of reasoning. At some point in human history of evolution, we had to have a survival feature and that was reasoning. Now having grown out of the need t...

There are some changes you find hard to accept (.. which are most ..) and some (.. which are rare ..) which you luv to accept . A better GurlFriend, A better Life, A better Car ... A better Best Friend ; that is rarer than rare . This how i would define you . Say, u reach a new place, far from home, and regularly keep lookin back for ssolace in an old life and feel bad about it or miss it ... and then a ray of sunshine breaks through that darkness ..and u start to luk forward to this new life .. This is how i define you .My Farishta list just got incremented .. new F=Farishta(F++); Also, this guy is the reason my Hindi improved. :D

I t was a great scene at the Prayas class inside the community on 15th March 2008. The early morning rush in the narrow pathway of the community apart, there were some bright faced parents who were eager to send their children along. A special mention was the look on Afsana's mother -Naimudin Shah, who had a glow on her face as if she was climbing a NASA Space Shuttle. A total of 32 children came along with us for the picnic. The kids were all dressed up and ready to go on a day of learning and fun. Gudia in a bright lovely yellow frock with red frills and a matching top, glowed with that beautiful smile of her. She surely was one of my favorites. But, every one of our children was raring to enjoy this day and every one of them, a special little star in our eyes. We had with us that day the ususal suspects / volunteers - Anand Bhai, Neha, Nikhil, Ruchi, Darshan, Vikas, Kanan, Sonia & me and also some volunteers from HCL - Sharukesh, Sanjay, Nikhil, and Pawan, courtesy Sonia...

It is not who 'I am' that I am worried about, its who 'I want to be' that is worrying me !

As every morning, while I was trying hard releiving some bottled up pressure, it struck me like a jolt. The grass on the other side really does not grow green by itself . . . It requires to be nurtured to that persistent sheen that it develops. But then again, there are the seasons when this green grass does turn dark. Reminded me also of a statement from Rang De Basanti । . . " कोई भी देश perfect नही हैं उसे perfect बनाना होता है " . . . The grass I am talking about is happiness. We generally look outside ourselves for happiness. In the happiness of a 2nd person or a group of people or our parents or siblings or for pets or in achieveing a material possesion. Happiness here now is dependent on this external component that is not in our control. The definition of happiness here I see is more like this - "A state of satisfaction-of-achievement in harmony with the surrounding or with the laws of the environment of existence". The self is always 2nd priority to this ha...

Love is in Silence & Action, not in insipid expression & materialistic satisfaction :) - Arun Raj / 9th Feb 2008

In this very under-thought blog, I am going to brief you on: "Why should you not think too much?" This being a blog that is being written due to frustrations arising from most people who excessively think and waste my time, I am going to be brief and don't want to appear over-thought. How difficult is a yes or no ? ... Batao aur khatam karo ... itne sochte kyun ho ! There is nothing to lose, as you have come here with nothing and are going to go with nothing. Now the consequences of over-thinking I believe you will need to contemplate on are as below. Feel free to add as comments or points you think are relevant as undeniable consequences of thinking: You could actually be wasting somebody's precious time, in not acting your part. You could take somebody's life when you are thinking - ex: Cause an accident, etc It could actually waste your time to execute a menial task. Thinking could drive people you love away from you, due to lack of action in expressing your lo...